Let’s be honest, no matter what is success to us, we all want it. The problem is that we don’t know the exact difference between success and failure. So, let’s first talk about success versus failure!
The ideas we have about success and failure are extremely important in today’s society. We judge ourselves and others based on our ideas about what constitutes success or failure.
When we decide that someone has succeeded, we applaud and envy them. And when we condemn a person as a failure, we avoid them and feel sorry for them. However, our ideas about success and failure are extremely limited and tied to poverty and wealth.
A man or a woman who earns large sums of money owns many assets and enjoys power over others are seen as successful people, regardless of whether they feel happy and fulfilled, whether they are self-aware and kind to others.
A person who feels satisfied, who is at peace with himself, who is generous and spiritually aware, can nevertheless be seen as a failure if he is poor or has few assets.
How could we create such a distorted idea? The answer is because of fear. This emotion is what makes us believe that, no matter how much we have, it is never enough.
The one that motivates us to pursue money and believe that it will give us happiness and that we will feel satisfied if we earn more.
These kinds of myths have arisen in recent centuries and are now prevalent in most societies around the world.
We just have to look around us to see that many wealthy people are unhappy. And yet we still want to be as rich as they are, believing that this will not happen to us, that we will be content with our luck.
Expose yourself to failure
We are all exposed to failure, that is a reality that can affect any area of your life and at all levels: your best friend disappoints you, you choose your profession badly, your soccer team loses the cup, your business is ruined, you get divorced, etc.
However, if we assume failure with the correct attitude, we can even strengthen ourselves and open ourselves to new horizons.
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Fear of failure stops all efforts: “No matter how hard you work to achieve success if your thoughts are surrounded with the fear of failure, it will weaken your spirits, neutralize them, and make success impossible.”
The fear of failure produces negative thoughts and feelings which reduce your full potential. It convinces you that you can’t achieve something, when in fact, you can.
One of the most destructive elements that accompany the fear of failure is the inability to accept criticism.
Are you afraid of what people think of you; but if they will give their opinion anyway? You have to prepare yourself for any kind of criticism! and you have to learn to not give a s*it about them! That’s the lesson.
Success versus Failure
Success is the benefits that you will receive when you can simply be yourself.
Without adornments or deception, in the field you love, with enthusiasm, attention and pleasure, you will succeed in it. Lasting success comes from the experience of showing all that you are and can be.
Don’t forget! Your success is inside of you, within your abilities and skills. If you feel success from the outside, then surely it’s nothing but an illusion made by the fear that can be fade away by a little challenge.
The secret to success is unconditionally accepting life and what it brings to you each day. If you can accept whatever happens to you, both good and bad, easy or difficult, with the same calm and positive attitude, then you will succeed.
If your heart remains open, you will know that no matter how difficult circumstances are, they continue to offer you opportunities to grow, learn, and succeed.
Opportunities often appear in disguise to test your determination and adaptability.
Real success lies in discovering a task in life that is in line with who you are and being willing to overcome obstacles and persevere in them, whatever the challenge is.
The advantages of success and failure
Despite the myths perpetuated by society, we have the power to question these myths once we understand that they are nothing more than stories.
Our lives’ successes and failures have many things to teach us if only we had the right perspective to learn.
Success and failure can reveal peace when you understand your place in life.
This experience happens in quiet moments when you achieve success and feel fulfilled, or when failure teaches you to accept life as it is.
The opportunities you have to succeed and fail are endless. These are in every radiant and spacious state you enter.
If you look within and discover that you are the creator and destroyer of your own life’s momentum, you will be in control.
The value of failure
Many people give up before achieving what they had set out to do. They lose faith and don’t think they can get it.
That is why many of those who are convinced they have failed do not know how close they were to succeeding when they decided to give up.
And failing at something you’ve been about to achieve is a heavy loss. Many people bow down to the ‘If only I had another chance‘ in life and then feel guilty, regretful, resentful, or bitter.
And yet, failure does not have to depress you because, in reality, it is a life-making experience. When you try to succeed, you detect something inappropriate or false each time.
Next time you look more carefully for what is appropriate and real.
Each dead-end indicates a new direction; each mistake shows you what to avoid in the future. What we call ‘failure‘ is not a fall, but a failure to get up.
If you still don’t believe in the value of failure then this video from TEDx Talks youtube channel can help you:
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12 Great Secrets To Avoid Failure
Who wants to fail in life? I think no one. However, some people are programmed to achieve it. For this reason, in this part, I will tell you the 12 great secrets to avoid failure and to achieve the success you are looking for so much.
Before reading these steps you can also watch this video from the Motivational Stories youtube channel:
1. Have a purpose in life.
Finding failure is very easy when you do not know what it is you want in life, having a clear purpose will take you on the right path to achieve your goals.
2. Educate yourself constantly.
Education is a very important factor in avoiding failure. When I talk to you about education, it is not only that taught in a university; you can also educate yourself by reading books. Remember that it takes more than a college degree to be an educated person.
3. Have self-discipline.
Those who lack self-discipline will hardly avoid failure. Self-discipline is managing yourself, it is planning and accomplishing tasks without the supervision of another person.
4. Don’t leave everything for later.
Successful people make decisions quickly and change them if they do so slowly. Those who fail to do the complete opposite make decisions, if at all, slowly and change them quickly.
Most people are good to start but bad to finish. Do not abandon your ideas at the first hint of difficulties, if you have a definite purpose in life you must persist, insist and never give up.
6. Make decisions.
Successful people make decisions quickly and change them, if they do so slowly. Those who fail do the complete opposite, make decisions, if at all, slowly and change them quickly.
7. Face your fear.
There are six basic fears that you can experience, even the most professional and experienced of singers feel fear when appearing in front of a crowd, but the problem is not feeling it, the problem is not facing it and not learning to control it. Failure lives in those who do not challenge their fears.
8. Select your partner correctly.
The partner you chose can help you fly very high or it can be a rock tied to your leg that will not let you take off. Choosing a person who shares your vision and helps you achieve your goals will cause you to rise so high in the sky that failure will be seen as a tiny dot on earth.
9. Dedicate yourself to what you are passionate about.
Dedicating yourself to something because your parents or friends told you to is buying a direct ticket to failure. Do not think about money; when you are the best at something, money comes as a bonus. Think of something you are good at and dedicate yourself to it!
10. Don’t guess, think.
I know people who do not like to think, it is true, they go through life making important decisions without analyzing the pros and cons. To avoid failure, you must take action and seek the necessary information to make your decisions wisely.
11. Spend with control.
People who waste their money will never be successful. The good use of it is synonymous with prosperity. Educating yourself in personal finance to learn how to invest it correctly is a source of power that will help you avoid failure.
12. Take action.
The law of attraction says that we must think about what we want so that the mind visualizes it and thus leads us to obtain it. This is very valid, and I sincerely believe in it, but remember that you must start doing activities that bring you closer to that dream or purpose for those thoughts to be fulfilled.
Remember the words of Walt Disney:
“Ask Yourself If What You Are Doing Today Is Getting You Closer To Where You Want To Be Tomorrow.”
Keep in mind these 12 fantastic secrets to avoid failure and you will surely achieve all the success you are looking for in your life.
What do you think of the failure? Do you think what can be avoided in another way?
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